Confidence is just like money, people will know you have it when you show it, and just like you do not want people to know you lack money, you should not let people know that you lack confidence.(this might not be the best reference).
Confidence is an illusion, just like magicians make you see what they want you to see. You control your confidence, so you have to make people see that you are confident even if your are not and that is the key. (getting better?)
There is this famous quote that will make you understand all of this in the best possible way; “If you put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price.”
SO, WE CAN SAY THAT THE EASIEST WAY TO GAIN SELF CONFIDENCE IS TO SHOW THAT YOU ARE CONFIDENT EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT.
So here are some ways to “fake it, till you make it.”
Have you ever seen a person slouching while giving a speech or while meeting someone and found them very confident?
So, picture a person you found very unconfident according to their body language and stand in the exact opposite posture.
Do not make it extra by standing tall with your butt squeezing in. While faking confidence keep your posture real at least.
Avoid your head from moving around anxiously and focus on a point. Keep your chin up, with your face pointing straight. Walk like you own the world, even if you don’t feel like you do.
MAKE EYE CONTACT
Making eye contact with the audience or with the person you are talking to or with the judges of the contest you are performing in, is always a sign of confidence.
People tend to judge you on the basis of that, to understand it better, have you ever told anyone to look in your eyes and say something you did not believe in first place? Why is that so?
Simply because a person cannot lie while looking in the eye(unless they are a pro lier, no offence).
Similarly when you look into the eye it shows your confidence and make sure you don’t get nervous while doing so.(because this is all you trying not to get.)
TRY STANDING STILL
People tend to shift their weight from one leg to other and tap feet constantly when they are nervous.
So, as said earlier picture an unconfident person and try to remember all the things that made you think so about them and do exactly the opposite.
And not just that, also try and picture a person who impressed you with their confidence, then try to learn things from them.
So try and balance your weight across your legs and stand still during a conversation or during a presentation.
(Not the same case with hands)
Here things get confusing, first we ask you to stand still for confidence and then you ask you to make hand gestures.
But these are the minor things that decide a lot about you.
So standing still and making hand gestures are two different things dealing with two different parts of body.
Making your upper body interactive is one of the major things that depict confidence.
People that make a lot of hand gestures while talking not only look confident but also this is one of the things that makes what they are saying more authentic and true.
Smile is one of the best ways to not only represent confidence but also to represent s you as a warm and friendly person that instantly makes an impression of yours.
In fact people tend to remember those who smile at them and it might also make the other person’s day.
If you find it difficult to maintain a smile all the time then smile when you make an eye contact with a familiar person or to the person you are getting introduces to, and then get back to your natural expression.
Laughter is another good way to display and boost confidence, when appropriate.
Speaking too quickly or speaking a low or inaudible tone of voice (in an attempt to look soft and humble) can make you appear less confident.
It makes people to ask you to repeat your words and that will make you nervous and also leaves you vulnerable to saying things you don’t mean.
Giving another classic example, We never said the answers we were not sure about out loud in school. So when you speak in a low voice you tend to look like lacking confidence.
The solution to this problems is to speak slowly(in terms of speed) and clearly.
Take your time and allow silences, it will give you time to come up with better words and will make you look more confident.
Respect is a give and take system for me, if you want respect, give it.
Not just that, respecting others show your values and showcases your confidence in your values and morals.
Avoid getting into gossips as this will show how confident you are being you and this might also inspire others.
“When you make people think you are confident you will eventually believe that yourself too. Ultimately gaining the confidence you were looking for.”
So, These are some tips (although I consider these as tricks) to gain confidence in yourself.
TELL US HOW YOU DECIDE IF A PERSON LACKS CONFIDENCE OR IS VERY CONFIDENT IN THE COMMENTS SECTION BELOW.